Honesty

I recently heard someone say,"you know an addict is lying because his lips are moving."
To be honest, I didn't really know what to think about that. Surely not all addicts lie about everything. Do they?
This has been hard for me to swallow because there has been dishonesty attached to the addict in my life. The human, emotional part of me wants the security of the truth! Tell me the truth!
I have always valued honesty. Honesty is crucial to building any kind of trust and respect in any aspect of our lives. Yet, it's so easy to lie and be lied to. And, even though it hurts us, somehow we think that it will soften our reality, or it's a vain attempt at maintaning our comfort zone.  But I firmly believe that lies will never soften a harsh reality or bring any kind of superficial comfort. No matter what the lie is. If I don't think someone looks nice, I don't tell them they look bad, I just don't say anything...or I compliment something I do think is nice about their appearance. If they ask my opinion, I will give an honest opinion, and make sure they know it is my opinion and not anything more. Maybe others think that this is rude. Maybe it is rude. I'm sure I've offended people in my life. But I think they would be more offended and hurt if they thought I was lying to them.
So why do addicts lie? Why does anyone lie? Are people so afraid of the truth? Do they even know what the truth is?
Being someone who highly values honesty, this is excruciating for me to try to understand. I just, don't, get it!
I've also tried to understand why it's so painful when I'm lied to...
Obviously, it hurts to be lied to, but for me, it's more than just the betrayal aspect. For me, I feel like I've been slapped in the face with the fact that the person who's lied to me, doesn't feel I am worth or deserving of the truth. They decided on their own, that I wouldn't be able to "handle the truth!"  But, I also think it is more self-serving than that as well. I believe that most people lie because they are afraid of something. Losing something or somone, or to get a certain reaction. Lying is purely and totally selfish. Even though I see it as something done to me. It is done for the liar. For their benefit only.
As a codependent of an addict, this is a struggle I am dealing with on a daily basis. I have to be able to let go of the lies, the betrayal. I have to let go, and let God. I am not here to judge or change anyone. But I can change myself and how I act in these difficult situations.
So, while I'm sure that addicts lie. And maybe steal and cheat. I am positive of two things:
1-I can't do anything about it & 2-God loves addicts the same as everyone else. Even those who do almost everything right.
More importantly, I love an addict. I will always love an addict. That too will never change. What needs to change is me. I can love and let go and create healthy boundaries with honesty and be at peace with myself and my life.
I don't know if the truth really sets us free. I don't know that we know the real truth very often. I do know that honesty will set us free, if we're honest with ourselves and those around us. 
Here's a challenge for us all:
Live this next week in total honesty. If it doesn't need to be said, don't say it. If you're asked for the truth, give it. And most importantly, be honest with yourself. Let me know how it goes, and what you think.
Honestly.